Ways to Minimize Acrimony and Hostility during a Marital Breakup
It can be a difficult task—even when you both know it’s the right thing, the emotions that accompany any type of personal relationship can make it challenging to maintain civility during the divorce process. But there are many benefits to doing so, particularly if there are minor children in the home. Even when your children are gone, finding ways to work cooperatively with your spouse can be beneficial, making them more inclined to work with you to divide marital debts and assets, for example. But how to you keep the emotions from getting in the way of getting on with your life. Here are some strategies.
Things that You Can Do to Promote and Maintain Civility in the Midst of Divorce
Unfortunately, disagreement and conflict are frequently part of a marriage…one study found that about six of every 10 couples said that persistent arguments and conflict were the primary cause of the marital breakdown. When there’s been rancor during the marriage, it’s not surprising that the hostility remains during the divorce process. But there are steps you can take to minimize hard feelings and destructive behavior during a divorce:
- Be willing to work with a professional counselor—Often, the fundamental causes of your anger can be difficult to determine. A professional counselor will be trained to ask the right questions to help you identify triggers, so that you can take action to temper your responses before they get out of hand.
- Take your time—Often, when you’re done, you can want everything to be resolved as quickly as possible. In most cases, that’s not in your best interests. You need time to process the changes in your life and you need time to grieve the loss of the relationship. You’ll also make better decisions if you don’t make them in haste.
- Identify one thing that you believe your ex does well—Instead of focusing on the negative, remind yourself of the positives. Maybe your ex was a hard worker and great provider, but was emotionally distant. Focusing on the positive can defuse your anger.
- Take care of yourself physically—Get the rest you need and do what you need to stay as healthy as possible. You’re more likely to lose your temper when you’re not feeling well.
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