Strategies to Make It a Good Experience for Everyone
Divorce is almost always difficult for families, but even more so at the holidays. As a divorced parent, you want your children to be a part of the family gatherings that are a tradition at the holidays, but it’s difficult. Here are some recommendations…a divorced parent’s guide to the holidays…that can help minimize both the heartbreak and the potential hard feelings this year.
Plan in Advance
The earlier you know your plans for the holidays and share them with your ex, the more time you’ll have to work out any special arrangements. It’s likely that you have an agreed upon arrangement, such as alternating holidays or split time at holidays. If your wishes or plans are different this year, you want to be in communication with the other parent as early as possible.
Be Clear about Your Agreements
Many difficulties at the holidays stem from misunderstandings, often caused by poor communication. Try to avoid a “he said, she said” situation. You may even consider using an online schedule or parenting plan, such as the one found here.
Be Flexible If At All Possible
The best holidays for everyone involved are typically the result of compromise. Be willing to give and take.
Make the Needs of Your Children a Priority
It’s not just a legal guideline…things tend to go smoother when you place a premium on the best interests of your children, rather than on what you want.
Don’t Try to Compete with Your Ex When It Comes to Gifts
Trying to outdo the other parent by giving lavish presents only makes things more difficult for your child. A better idea…communicate directly with the other parent and coordinate the gift giving, so that you’re not duplicating each other. Honor the agreement and don’t slip in an extra present or two.
Show the True Holiday Spirit
Help your child pick out a small holiday gift for the other parent. Make a plate of cookies they can take to your ex. Showing cooperation at the holidays takes a lot of the pressure off your kids…and it will make you feel better, too.
We Can Help Guide Divorced Parents through the Holidays
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